This is very refreshing for me as many( if not most) intactivists that I have been personally in contact with are anything but tactful and respectful. They seem to bully people who don't agree with them. The same with the language on some of the websites. In my mind stating 'your child WILL hate you for it' or 'your child WILL need therapy' or things of the like is highly inappropriate. I know cut people who are way more psychologically stable than some intact people. If you want to show a circumcision videos and state studies and statistics that's great and apprecitated but giving broad generalizations and what some would deem veiled threats is not. I thank you for this article it's a must read for all parents of infant boys and all of humanity really. People of all opinions of many issues (vaccination, pro-choice, etc.) could learn a lesson from this. I appreciate this greatly. Thank you for your respect and insight.
I especially appreciate the emphasis on active listening. Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in trying to get as much information in as possible in a limited amount of time, we don't take the time to really listen to the person we are trying to persuade. For example, you may go into great detail about the anatomy and function of foreskin, human rights, etc., when the person you are talking to may be interested in simply not wanting to hurt a baby. Save your breath and listen.
Thank you for these common sense points. I often cringe when I see intactivists insulting and offending anyone and everyone who dares to cross them. How many more babies could be saved if people followed this advice and saved the ranting and insults (if need be) for private vent sessions with other intactivists. I get angry about this, but if I call people out on it, I run the risk of being yelled down as an "intactocop." It's ludicrous, and I so wish intactivists who do this would see that they're guilty of some of the same behavior they're claiming to be against--not listening, being closed minded, etc.